What To Do
When The World Makes You Mad
by
Graham Maxey
1. Slow down - Give yourself a chance to think, not just react.
2. Remember who you are - Don’t settle for being a particular
self-image; you are also your
values, your higher self, your chance to be a positive difference in the world.
3.
Get into your
ADULT
mode of thinking - It’s the only tool you’ve got that will allow you to negotiate with
people.
4. Don’t even bother to think
about “what’s fair”
- The only consideration that makes any
difference is “what works.”
5. Notice everyone’s positive
intentions - They will seem more
human to you and less in
need of your personal intervention in their lives.
6. Notice your own hurts and fears - Concentrate on self-comforting and self encourag-ing. You can take care of a lot of anger
this way.
7. When you talk to people, remember
the three “hoops” you need to get your communication
through: 1) they agree with the
statement; 2) it’s beneficial to them; 3)
it’s said in action words that the unconscious can understand.
8. Don’t allow yourself to be
hooked into mutual manipulation - The
only way to win that
game is not to play.
9. Practice self-calming techniques
regularly - Spend time in meditation,
affirmation,
and recreation.
10.
Plan to get all of your needs met - Don’t put off things thinking you can get by. You
are vitally important to the health of this planet. Don’t skimp on someone who
is means so much.
11.
Live more and more of your life less and less on the “surface” - stay in touch with the
mystery, the wonder, and the awe that is in every moment. Don’t worry so much
about understanding it, just make sure you appreciate it.
12.
Make a decision to trust life -
You won’t get out alive, but you will get out of a lot of
wasted effort.
